Michael Battalio


Friday, August 29, 2014

Serious conversations (part 59): Adulthood part 5

        This series is a continuation of my conversations with an atheist friend of mine. These are my edited responses from that conversation. The fifty-fifth – fifty-ninth entries deal with adulthood.

        Previously I consider some criterion for adulthood. Here I conclude with regarding adulthood as a continuum.

        I have had it suggested to me to change my appearance (including hairstyle) to look more adult like, but that begs the question why do certain hairstyles or other physical attributes appear adult-like?  Who sets that standard?  I think these are just more questions that we won’t be able to answer.  We come across a lot of those in our serious conversation. If only we had more general knowledge in psychology or fashion, we could begin to speculate.

        I’m trying to recall the moment that I realized I was an adult. For me though it was a gradual process.  I would agree that I’m an adult now, but it simply happened.  Perhaps I could narrow it down to home ownership, but it never occurred to me at that time. 

        I have realized that adulthood never is a moment; I am always becoming more of an adult. Adulthood is a continuum, and your life is filled with moments of “becoming” a new person.  I frequently think about how weird time is.  In a sense we are constantly dying in that the person I am now is not the person I was a year ago or a month, a day, an hour, a minute ago.  This person I have become supplants the person I was.  The Michael Battalio that experienced the transition to adulthood no longer exists.  Only the present Michael Battalio matters.  I don’t care about my past self because there is nothing I can do to change what happened to him, but I do very much care about my future self even though I will never meet that person and that person won’t really care about me.  I’m not sure where I wanted to go with that only to say that as I grow and mature it will be at the expense of my less experienced self.   Though I submit that it is not possible to know what I will be like in the future, I presently cannot imagine becoming accepting of death.  However, every elderly person I have known to die has been very accepting of it.  I think that is because they are tired of their lives not because they have accepted death.  Once we can extend quality of life as well as we can extend lifespan the age at which people become accepting of death will increase too.

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