Michael Battalio

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Serious conversations (part 47):

        This series is a continuation of my conversations with an atheist friend of mine. These are my edited responses from that conversation. The forty-sixth through fiftieth entries deal with introversion/extroversion, social interaction and popularity.

        Last time we started a whole new topic focused on social interaction. I summarized my own personal trouble with social interactions. This entry is a bit of a rathole. I send a bit of time wondering why certain activities are so interesting to some people.

        I frequently have issues of believing people beneath my time. It is an issue that I have struggled with and come to terms with over the last few years. I, honestly, don’t find very many people intellectually stimulating, and that is not to say that I believe I’m smarter than everyone else. I believe quite the opposite in fact. There are many people more knowledgeable than me on a great many subjects. The problem I have is that I don’t know many people that share similar interests with me. Why have a conversation with some acquaintance about some topic I find inconsequential when you could be doing something you find interesting? Most of the people I don’t give much attention to aren’t bad in any sense of the word; they just aren’t interesting to me. Conversely, I try not to be offended when people act like I’m not worth their time. If we don’t share something in common, there is no reason to interact except to be polite. Indeed why do we make friends with certain people and not other, because we find them interesting.

        Following along that line of reasoning, what makes certain subjects/activities interesting to certain people? I wonder why it is that certain activities have been socially adopted as the “things to do”. For example, why is going bar hopping an activity that so many find fascinating? Having been drug “out” on many occasions, there is nothing particularly fun about it. You just end up spending a lot of money. It’s much easier to purchase what you need to make your own drinks and do it at home. I wonder if this speaks to the laziness of people, which is not to say that I think people who do go bar hopping are lazy. It is just a lot less mentally taxing to go drink than it is to enjoy a concert or some such or read a book. Also I think some of the popular enjoyment of the activity results from spontaneity and from the social interaction it allows. I remember from my Psych 101 class that a trait of extroversion is spontaneity. It makes sense that an extrovert that has made no plans for the evening suddenly decides to go out, and bar hopping is the easiest activity. Also, think about what there actually is to do that can be done spontaneously. Going out to eat, seeing a moving, there isn’t very much.

        I think a lot of my particular situation is that there isn’t much to do in Starkville besides going out to drink. There is no symphony or theatre company, no art shows or the like, just a lot of bars. I hope this problem is somewhat alleviated when I move to TX because there are so many big cities nearby.

No comments:

2003-2016 Michael Battalio (michael[at]battalio.com)